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Parenting Without Power Struggles

Susan Stiffelman
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4:3 Calming Rage With IFS: Helping Protective Parts Relax

Susan continues her Parenting Without Power Struggles series on Internal Family Systems, exploring how "firefighter" parts trigger intense reactivity, rage, and regrettable parenting moments. She explains that parents often fixate on what...

4:2 Blindsided by Rage: An IFS Look at Firefighter Parts

In this episode, Susan explores what Internal Family Systems (IFS) calls "firefighter" parts — protective parts that flood in with fast, intense reactions like rage, trying to put out old emotional pain,...

4:1 Calm, Confident, Clear: Anchoring to Your Wise Self

In this episode, Susan introduces the core idea behind Internal Family Systems and what it means for parenting: beneath our anxiety, anger, and overwhelm is a calm, confident "Wise Self" — the...

1: 71 Encore episode: A Conversation With Dr. Kristin Neff

In this conversation, Susan and Dr. Kristin Neff talks about the importance of cultivating both fierce and tender self-compassion, offering specific practices that parents can easily use when they're feeling overwhelmed, angry,...

2:10 Five Principles of Parenting with Aliza Pressman

Susan talks with Dr. Pressman about the five guiding principles for raising a good human: relationships, reflection, regulation, rules, and repair. They stress the importance of being a "good enough" parent, rather...

3:48 The Uncomfortable Path to Resilience

Resilience isn't a trait kids either have or don't — it's something they build through repeated experiences of feeling hard emotions and getting through them, with a present and steady parent by...

3:45 Captain of the Ship Meets IFS

In this episode, Susan is joined by Lisa Spiegel, author of Internal Family Systems Therapy with Children, for a conversation about how understanding our "parts" can transform our parenting life. They explore...